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Saturday, May 12, 2007

Gettin' attached?

No, not yet...just gonna talk about it. =P

It's funny...when you turn twenty one, and if you're still not attached, people start to ask why. Okie, maybe in my case I've been asked since last year. They're turning the pressure on, maybe. Or trying to get rid of me...haha. Okie, I know that's probably the wrong-est answer...

Anyhow, I think getting into a relationship requires a lot. When I was much younger, I used to think that getting a boyfriend was easy peasy. You get treated nicely, you get gifts, you say all the nice and mushy stuff to each other, you talk on the phone...basically, you just survive on love and air, and that's all you would ever need.

Now that I've grown up along the way (and hopefully much wiser, too), I've come to realize that getting into and maintaining a relationship does cover a whole lot of issues...of course, you still get the nice things mentioned above, but there's much more to it than just that. And no, you can't survive on love and air alone...

I personally think that communication plays one of the most vital roles...if both of you are not gonna talk about your feelings/thoughts/struggles/problems/dreams/aspirations and whatever's on your mind, your relationship's gonna suffer.

I've come to a realization that many guys (not all...just many) keep really quiet when they are angry, upset, annoyed, or irritated. And it takes a lot of effort on the lady's side to just shush up and give him some space for a bit till he cools down, instead of "interrogating" him and asking "what happened" in that oh-so-concerned tone (the last thing a guy needs in a girlfriend is a piece of his mother) (and hey guys, it's in our nature...we do try our best, you know).

But sometimes, ladies do that (mothering and getting so concerned) because we naturally like it and love it and NEED it (and sometimes crave for it)...and it being, the attention. So I guess most ladies would think that guys need it too.

We often forget that men and women don't come from the same mould...we were made and wired differently (and therefore, our needs are also different). There is a vast difference between how a man does his shopping and how a woman does hers (I don't need to say much more on this)...how much more the way they think. And that's why women need to know that men are the way they are because they were made that way, and men, the way women are because they were made that way. We cannot understand all things...so whatever we cannot understand and change, we accept just as it is.

But first...let us discover and understand ourselves before we try to understand the opposite sex. To the women: discover who you are and how you were made, and FOR WHO you were made (by the way, women are made for men, and not men for women...read the Bible, it's all in there). And what more better way than to go back to your Creator because He made you. And to the men, the same thing goes for you...

I'm currently reading "Let Me Be A Woman" by Elisabeth Elliot...am only a fifth through it, but it's such good stuff. She's a really wise and godly woman. You should get hold of it (guys, not you, okie...I don't know what's good for you, but go to maybe Jit or Yosh or Uncle Ven, or whoever reads a lot if you need a book about men).

Posted by ltsmei at 12:01 AM

Good post Ly! :D Very well said.

I know that Jit has a very good book that he can't stop praising called "Wild at Heart" or something. Haven't read it yet, but he insists that I have to read it before getting attached. Haha... This one's for men :D

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Yay Elisabeth Elliot! :) Hm, methinks guys can read Let Me Be a Woman also lah; dad said that after reading it he understood women better. Heh. And anyway, seems that many guys wrote to EE after reading LMBAW, asking for a guy-version, so she wrote The Mark of a Man. :)

Ryan: Wild at Heart is good book. *nods*

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Haha i see

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